The identity of a 20-something
“Ever wonder how long it takes to change your life? What measure of time is enough to be life-altering? Is it four years, like high school? One year? An eight-week walking tour? Can your life change in a month, or a week, or a single day? We’re always in a hurry to grow up, to go places, to get ahead… but when you’re young, one hour can change everything.”
And yes, we’re definitely young enough.
I find it quite sad that some people would change their lives if they could start over, that they would choose to go completely different paths if they could go back. And since time machines haven’t been invented yet, the only solution seems to be to regret these decisions all your life or of course, to disappear to a new place where no one knows you, where no one can judge you, where no one has any idea of who you are. But let’s face it; that’s running away from your problems to a place that’s not your home.
Don’t get me wrong; I don’t think it’s ever too late to create yourself from scratch or to let go of everything and find yourself anew. To start over is a good thing; but running away to a new place will only leave you with a lingering feeling of exactly that, avoidance. I truly believe that the best way to start over is to start building yourself in front of the people you already know, the people you already love. You don’t need to look for redemption. You don’t need to live in the past or make plans for the future. Simply, put the focus on you right in this current moment. Make the decisions that you’ll look back at in a few years and know both in your mind and heart that you’re thankful for.
There is way too much life in you to not.